You have been dating this guy for a while. You find him really charming, and your personalities seem to go well together. There is a little nudge in your heart, telling you that you could be falling in love again.
But you are worried. The last time you checked, your heart was completely broken. You have been in and out of relationships for some time now, and you are now afraid to jump into another relationship with someone.
See how the past can sometimes control you? However, that should not be the case. As much as possible, you should give yourself as many chances as you can to love and be loved. It is all a matter of learning to go past the hurt and anger and determined to love again.
Ask yourself the question: are you truly ready to love again?
You should learn from your previous relationships. By now, you know that romantic relationships should be taken slow. If you feel uncomfortable with the idea of loving, it could be because you do not know the person too well yet. So get to know him more. Another explanation is you are not just ready. You are still bound by the past, and until you heal yourself with that, you cannot move on properly.
Start the healing process.
The process of healing is the hardest and the longest. It will take you months to even years, but if you do not take the step now, you will never get to such a point. You can use subliminal messages to deal with the negative emotions a lot better.
Every day you can speak of the following subliminal messages:
I am letting go of the past.
I am saying goodbye to the pain.
I am opening myself to love.
We will let go of the anger and hurt.
Repeat these subliminal messages every day. By doing so, they will become your new sets of beliefs. You will discover you actually have a lot of capacity to forgive. Moreover, instead of feeling yourself with negative vibes, you shower yourself with more love and acceptance over what happened.
Love yourself more.
This can also be translated to take care of yourself a lot better. You should know that there are no guarantees when it comes to relationships. Even married couples do separately. Thus, you need to retain a little love for yourself, so you do not end up losing yourself if the relationship goes a long way.
Taking good care of yourself is also essential since it is how you can improve your self-confidence. Lose it and you may just see yourself as a clingy, insecure woman. Guys actually like if it their woman is confident and secure of herself.
Choose to love.
The hardest thing is to wake up one morning and ask the question, “What if I just decide to love?” You will never know if he is the right person for you unless you are going to give yourself a chance to love and be loved in turn.